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Holes In My Ceiling – Relationships

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Ladies, do you sometimes feel like you have invested too much time and energy into your “fixture upper”? Men, is the chick you’re with in a constant state of “work in progress”? By now you may be ready to throw in the towel, throw your hands up and walk away. Before you do let me share a story with you.

A couple years ago I was in my garage doing a little spring cleaning when I saw three grayish spots on the ceiling. The spots were about two feet in diameter and very noticeable. Unfortunately, my air conditioner was leaking and the spots in the ceiling sagged from the weight of water. So not only did my brand new house have what I thought was a busted unit but my once perfectly white ceiling had three perfectly oval water stains. Ugh!! I love owning my house but I really could do without the upkeep and the problems. Sound familiar? Sometimes relationships are that way too. Keeping them looking and running like new requires maintenance and patience. Anyway, I immediately called the HVAC guy and explained to him what was going on. He then explained to me that the water from the unit wasn’t draining properly and was probably sitting in one place, saturating areas of the ceiling. What he said next made me wonder if I should be listening to him or not. He told me to poke holes in the ceiling with a pencil. Well first of all, I didn’t have a pencil. Secondly, who wants a ceiling full of poked holes? Dang, the ceiling was jacked up enough right? Yes, my frustration was high and my patience was short. He politely told me that he understood my concern but because he couldn’t come to my house until the next day I only had two choices. I could either have a ceiling with a few holes in it or I could have half of a ceiling because the rest would be in a pile on the garage floor. In other words, lose the ceiling completely or maintain what I currently had. Let’s see, I kinda like my ceilings over my head and not under my feet so I climbed on my ladder and started poking holes. Within minutes the water started to drain through the small holes and the ceiling stayed up high where it belonged. The next day I found out that the unit was fine and didn’t need to be replaced. It only needed a minor tweak.

Fill the holes of your life with love!!

In our relationships are there some things that simply need to be tweaked? If we focus on small flaws we can potentially lose what’s really important. In this case, it was something to cover my head. In your case it may be someone who has messed up once but has otherwise been good to you. It may be someone who works your nerves with annoying habits but they will take care of you when you’re sick or support every one of your dreams. Sometimes things are broken but that doesn’t mean they are not repairable. Most times our dream girl or guy comes with a few holes in them just like we have a few holes in us. Use the power of discernment and consider the mess that you can just let drain out in order to save your “ceiling”.

Blog ya next time,

  1. #1ChiefRocka
    January 25, 2011 at 1:53 PM

    Everything requires a little maintenance. 🙂

  2. January 25, 2011 at 2:18 PM


    I dig this one a lot. I like how you analyzed the ceiling with relationships. We all have flaws in our structure just like a house because nothing is perfect about us. We all have water in our ceilings of relationships ready to be drained and maintained but are afraid to poke some holes because of the maintenance. I believe in upgrading with a better insurance policy where the premiums are kept at a reasonable scale. I believe there are too many liabilities and not enough of the full coverage in our relationships. Okay Dokk Savage Sigining OFFF!!!!

  3. #1ChiefRocka
    January 25, 2011 at 3:26 PM

    Even the upgrade will require maintenance. 🙂 The grass isn’t always greener on the other side!

  4. LadyQ
    January 25, 2011 at 5:39 PM

    Good One!!

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